The Retiring Mind: Living Senior
This is exactly what Robert (Bob) Delamontagne, a successful entrepreneur and educational psychologist, thought after entering retirement. At first, it felt like a big vacation, especially after he and his wife spent 10 days touring Italy, but then came the feeling of discomfort and being disconnected from his old life. “It felt like flying an airplane blindfolded. You don’t know where you are going or how to get there.”
It was then that Bob decided to understand and solve the problem by diving deep into himself psychologically and spiritually. He has since decided to share this journey with future and current retirees in his newly released book, _The Retiring Mind_.
“I started to interview people and talked to friends; the more I delved into the issue, I started getting these phenomenal stories,” he said.
In the first half of _The Retiring Mind_, Bob dissects nine personality types and how each responds differently to retirement. “Some types have much greater risks for adjustment problems than others,” he said. A major problem is “achievement addiction,” which refers to individuals who have integrated themselves into what they do as opposed to who they are. As a result, they feel they have lost a part of themselves in retirement. For the remainder of the book, he focuses on the customized courses of action for each type and what he refers to as “happiness realizations.”
“These are critical understandings and realizations that help you to release the iron grip you have on yourself,” he said. “By understanding these, it improves your happiness.”
Already receiving positive feedback, Bob also hopes _The Retiring Mind_ will show others that they are not alone. While recently in Florida, Bob met a banker who immediately expressed an interest in his book and revealed that she and her husband were in psychological counseling due to his inability to adjust to retirement.
“People don’t admit to this being a problem and yet I think a large number of people go through this. You don’t know the psychological dynamics that are going to be in play,” said Bob. “My intent is to help other people prepare to retire and cope with it after they’ve retired.”
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