Is your glass half full?
“Perhaps I’m in the minority here, but reading all of these comments, it makes it sound like this kind of move is hugely detrimental to a senior, filled with doom and gloom. . . I guess, there are as many people that see the glass half empty as there are seeing it half full!” Click here for full text of this comment
I have been thinking about this comment ever since it was posted on the blog. In my 20 year career, I have heard statements like “I will never move to a home”, or “My mom refuses to move to a home” countless times. Imagine if you are someone who made that statement and you now find yourself or a loved one actually moving into a “home”. You can see how its hard to get really excited about this life transition.
When I was living in Paul Spring I became much more aware of the stigma that rests on senior housing options and consequently on the shoulders of the residents. For example, at a community event one resident shared with everyone in the room how to her surprise she has benefitted from living in the community, and when she recommended to a friend to consider moving in, her friend said “there is no way I will ever move to an old age home.” Even if you really love a community, when you hear statements like this enough I can see how it might affect your esteem and attitude.
Many of the residents I met went through tremendous loss prior to moving in, however for the most part they balanced themselves with a positive attitude. I think the saying “attitude is everything” is very appropriate to making this transition a smooth one. I really think this is an area where family, community and loved ones can be very helpful to giving new residents every chance to maximize the benefits of the transition and become part of a community.
I put together a video that trys to articulate some of my thoughts on this, it’s definately not an easy subject – I would appreciate questions, comments and challenges on this topic.